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I just left my marriage. Still going through divorce. I feel very alone, and I want to go out and out and meet new people, just to fill that void in my life. However, I am not sure I am ready for a sexual relationship.
Everything I hear makes it seem like everyone jumps to sex on the first or third date. Not sure I’m ready for that. I’m 40 meters, so I feel it’s a bit strange.
Does anyone have any advice? Would it be weird if I had a dating profile and met people through OLD, but I didn’t want to connect? Or rather, take it easy? Would women find that refreshing? Or am I asking to end up in the friend zone?
Super bored of the girls after having sex
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So some background information: I am 28 years old and have had 2 lasting relationships of 3 to 4 years in both. However, now I have been single for 5 years. In the last 5 years, I think I’ve been with about 20 girls / year. At the beginning I always get excited, I love talking to them, but after having had sex for a couple of days and having had a couple of dates, I get bored and I literally fear even answering your message. The worst of this is that they seem very optimistic and excited to see me, which makes me feel terrible. What is wrong with me? Did anyone else have this problem and overcome it and how? I have followed the route without sex … I fell in love with this girl for 6 months and when I finally started dating her. Help. Please.
- Find a social activity to do. You could go to the mall, the movies, to the park, or other places. Find something that will be fun for many of your friends.
- Determine how many people can go. Keep in mind that you’ll need a way for them to get there, and you shouldn’t invite too many people.
- Make a mental list of who you want to go. This can be a long list of people, because you’re going to narrow it down later.
- Narrow it down to who likes each other. Having a night out where Joe hates Steve and Steve is yelling at Joe all night is no fun. Keep everyone’s feelings in mind, and make sure everyone is comfortable with each other.
- Narrow it down further to who likes the activity. Of course, if everyone likes each other, the activity won’t be the deciding factor of the night. However, it will be more fun if everyone likes what you have planned.
- Confirm who is actually going. Contact those who you have chosen to go and make plans. Say you’re thinking of asking so and so– the other people you planned.
- Consider asking people you ruled out if someone cannot go. Not everyone can make it, so if you have space on your list, go ahead and ask someone else you think would make the night fun.
Update: First of all, thanks to all those who took the time of their day to share their personal experiences and advice with me, either through this post or PM. (I have read all your comments, even those blatantly ignorant). I have learned a lot about me. Especially some questions that had never come to mind. I am happy not to be alone in this, which really freed me from some tension that I had personally accumulated. I will apply the things that I thought sounded to me personally and I hope that by the end of the year I will tell you how it was again. Hopefully with good news, particularly for those who feel they are experiencing a similar situation.
I went through a phase like that at the beginning of my 20 years. I cannot say what exactly causes this for you, but for me it turned out to be two separate problems.
- I was very focused on myself. I didn’t realize it at the time, but unconsciously I saw relationships as my own personal entertainment. I wasn’t looking to build anything with anyone (although I thought I did it at the time), I was just looking for a toy to entertain myself and bring some excitement into my life.
When most relationships are moving from the “honeymoon” phase to a phase of mutual responsibility, it began to feel more like work than fun. The emotion would go away, the novelty would disappear and I would get bored. It was largely because I based relationships largely on physical attraction rather than knowing and loving them for what they are. It was more about “what can you do for me”.
I was dating the wrong girls. I was after “hot” girls hoping that everything else was great too. But physical attributes were almost the only criteria. And in our first 20 years, most of us don’t have much at stake. Without life experience, without a career, passions are rare. So I ended up with many very attractive girls who focused mainly on wallets, makeup and clothes. None of which provides substance that keeps me interested.
He had a friend who was dating a girl and she asked him: “Do I fit you or do I feel good for you?” and he said: “Honestly, you just fit very well.” And she said “Good. Because the sensation will disappear. But the adjustment will not.” That made a lot of sense to me. They got married and are still happily married today (about 20 years later).
So, my solution to these two problems was to look for substance rather than physicality. Obviously, I had to be attracted to them, but if there was no substance, I was not an initiator. And second, I began to commit to my partner. Like JFK, I did not ask “what can my girlfriend do for me, but what can I do for my girlfriend”. And I discovered that when I promised to contribute to the relationship, she became more committed to me. And because I was dating girls with substance, the juice was worth it.