I’m starting to explore my sexuality more and find out that I enjoy sex. I want to find more men to connect within an informal way, potentially friends with benefits.
I guess I’m asking for advice for fellow INFPs who have the same inclinations. I want some advice to be more assertive and start and get out of my head.
Thank you, beautiful 🙂
Oh yes, make it a friend! I am also an INFP who recently came out of a relationship a couple of years ago and last year I decided that I wanted to try to be more informal in my relationships instead of trying to find “the right one.” Honestly, it was emotionally hard and, like INFP, I always liked being able to be free and relate to my terms, and connections helped me learn that.
It’s going to be a bit weird at first because it’s like oh, how much should I invest in this person? Should I talk to them again later or leave it like this? What happens if I invest emotionally? And you know what it is all about you and what you choose to do. Be a free friend and I hope you publish how it goes, I love hearing stories from other people learning about themselves.
I had a boy in Tinder who said he was just looking for uncomplicated sex in his first message. The way he expressed it made me want to give it a try, even though I was quite convinced that casual sex was not for me. We had drinks, it turned out to be great, so sex happened. It was not exactly casual since we spent the next 4 days together and ended up traveling 8 hours to spend 5 days at home, but it could have worked.
I think the main difference with other guys who try the same thing is that he was honest and open about it, he declared it casually, without conditions (as if he said no, that would be fine too) and he didn’t. Don’t talk about sex all the time. I need to be able to have a normal conversation with the person and have a good time with her without having to do sex first.
Like, we spent the whole night talking and drinking, and sex never came up after that first conversation about Tinder. Then, I would say that you express your intentions, but behave like a normal human being and do not expect sex or see it as something you are entitled to just because it has been a topic of conversation.
each this worked for me too. My profile on the day said something like “hey, I travel a lot and if wherever we agree, even outside , then I will only be in the city for a while. I’m just looking for something fun, informal and respectful, so like a great dinner company in your city! “
There was no need to hide, everything was in front and unpretentious or what he was offering. It also meant that the parties I knew what they signed up for, it was not necessary to dance on the subject and try to present the situation with tact.
I met some amazing, great and funny women, who enriched my life even in a slightly small way. I would like to think that it was a mutually beneficial agreement for everyone. Some even became regular coffee or beverage partners every time he returned to that city. My experiences were overwhelmingly positive, so much that I would be glad to do it again if I were single again.
If you are afraid of offending a basic stranger, you probably do not have the constitution for many social interactions, much less for casual sex.
All boys want casual sex with few exceptions. You need to be something special to achieve it. Super great body, hilarious, musically inclined, you need some kind of talent. Possibly just being well hung would work if you could relax and not be creepy.
I am a 22-year-old boy who has never had a romantic relationship with a member of the opposite sex in my entire life. Nor did I have many friends or had very little female interaction after passing the tenth grade, since I chose to study for JEE and did not enjoy my university life. I was reluctant to approach any girl in college because of the shy nature and some inferiority complex. I don’t think I can spend a lot of time running behind the girls since the next 1-2 years are crucial to my career right now. I wanted to know if it’s too late to start now or if only arranged marriage can save me. Suggestions welcome. Also, should I start making friends first and then go for the real thing? I’m already in Tinder but I’m not lucky yet. Please excuse my bad English
I am a guy involved in a long term relationship that my girlfriend and I have recently decided to open. I am a confident guy, but I have no experience with casual sex or open relationships, so I am a little unsure about the best way to proceed.
I agree to be in a casual relationship, but it is not right to be treated as if I were in a casual relationship.
I have been seeing this guy for 3 months and it has made it very clear that he is not looking for a serious commitment and just wants something casual. At that moment I felt perfectly happy with that, although I liked it, I was in no hurry to get into something serious, so it worked.
Lately, I have felt less happy with the situation, and I realized that it is not because I am not well knowing that the relationship is not going anywhere, it is because they are treating me that way. We send text messages once a week to know when we will meet next time, which is usually a few hours of caresses, a movie, and sex, and then go home. When we are together, it’s great and I have a lot of fun, and then I don’t hear from you until next week.
I’m fine at something that isn’t going to be serious, but I’m not good at being treated as if it were Wednesday’s option. I think my question is, do you think it’s worth mentioning? Or should I hit him one last time and say goodbye? I don’t need him to want to have a relationship with me, I just want him to stop treating me as a weekly connection.
This is my profile
It seems that I receive many profile views and notifications of “you have received a high rating”, plus a couple of messages, but none so far from someone that interests me. I have only found some profiles that arouse my interest, but when I do I feel a little lost.
Has anyone sailed these waters successfully?
Another truism of “men want sex all the time”. No, not all men want casual encounter, with only a few outliers. Many men have reasons not to seek casual sex. And there really is a surprising amount of men who really don’t value sex at all! If true!
Let’s say there is a boy. He is also looking for casual sex. This is a good person, definitely respectful and affectionate. He is a little shy and does not have much experience in flirting. What kind of things to say and do that can lead to a successful match? She is afraid that if she misses and mentions Netflix and relaxes, she will feel offended, disgusted and ruin her good reputation.